As mom’s our to do list is never ending. If you are a work at home mom, like me, you probably often feel that after taking care of your home, your kids, your partner, and your job, there is just no time left for taking care of you. I’m going to be real and give you some tough love right now. Self-Care is NOT OPTIONAL! There are ways that you can practice self care when you have no time.
Not practicing self care is a recipe for disaster. When you are not looking after yourself, you will eventually become burnt out and irritable. You will be short with your kids and husband and you will have no energy or motivation to do anything.
As you can imagine, when you are in that condition, you are certainly not giving your best to your family. So, if you are not going to do it for you, do it for them.
Even if you feel like you have no time, there are ways that you can include self care in your day. We will talk about this shortly, but first I want to talk about what self care actually is and what self care is not.
What Self Care Is
In its most basic sense, self care is taking care of yourself. Now, this means different things to different people. However, there are certain things that apply across the board. For instance, we all need to focus on nourishing our bodies with healthy foods and making sure we drink plenty of water. Other important aspects of self care include sleep, movement and doing something you enjoy. Self care activities should refuel and energize you.
What Self Care Is Not
Self care is not selfish. If giving your best to your family is important to you, then you need to make your own self care a priority. It is not something that needs to take hours of time. Self care is also not something that you should dread, but it may not always be comfortable either. Sure, there may be certain aspects that do not sound appealing to you (for me that was exercise) but there are ways to make them enjoyable.
Okay, now that we have cleared that up, let’s talk about how we can start implementing self care, even if you think you have no time.
Ditch The All Or Nothing Mindset
Finding a self care routine that works for you is a journey. There will be good days and bad days. Just remember that some self care is better than none. So, if you missed your morning workout, don’t throw in the towel and scarf down 6 donuts for breakfast. Instead, give yourself some grace and move on. We all have days where we can’t do everything we planned on, and that’s okay. Just do your best to keep up with the rest of your self care.
Start With The Basics
At the bare minimum, make sure your core needs are being met. We are all in different seasons, some busier than others. In those really busy seasons, make sure you are limiting junk food and instead filling up with nourishing whole foods, drinking plenty of water, and getting as much sleep as possible.
Plan For It
If you are like me, if something is not already planned for, it just will not happen. Schedule time in your planner for your self care and stick with it. If you struggle to find time for this, you may want to consider waking up earlier (but don’t sacrifice sleep) or implementing a daily quiet time with your kids. I do both and it has made such a difference.
As moms we can have the best intentions and well laid out plans and then something unexpected comes up that throws you completely off course. Maybe the baby decides not to nap, we get a call to pick up a sick child from school or our husband has to work an extra 2 hours. Yes all of these things have happened to me and probably to you to. This is where prioritizing comes into play. Do the things that will give you the most benefit first. If you still have time, you can do more, but if not, all is not lost.
Remember, self care will look a little different for everyone. It will take some time to develop habits and routines that work for you. If you are ready to jump in and get serious about your self care, I have developed the perfect resource for you!
I put together a free workbook design especially for overwhelmed moms. It will get you started in implementing basic self care in a way that is manageable. These are the strategies I personally use to make sure my needs are being met. It has made a HUGE impact on my happiness.
The workbook is designed for overwhelmed moms who feel like they truly have no time to to practice self care. It will walk you through implementing basic self care practices so you can start living to your fullest potential.
If you feel like you are just dragging through the day and living for nap time, please try my free workbook! Once you start implementing these strategies you will feel revitalized, happier and more energetic. Best of all, you will start enjoying your kids again instead of just going through the motions.
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