9 Reasons I Make My Kids Help With Chores

benefits of chores

I once heard someone say that kids should not be doing chores because our kids were not born to be our slaves. In my opinion, this person is completely missing the point. There are many benefits of chores.

 

Parents aren’t giving chores to kids because they want to get out of doing them themselves. Chores are a great learning tool that can teach kids quite a few valuable lessons.

 

I am of the mindset that chores are an essential part of growing up. Children should start doing them early on. In fact, I have some easy chores that my 2 year old is responsible for.

 

One of the main purposes of parenting is to raise a self-sufficient adult. Giving your kids a little responsibility around the home is a great way to help them thrive in adulthood.

 

Here are just a few of the reasons that kids need to be doing chores.

benefits of chores

Teaches Responsibility

This is one of the most important benefits of chores. If you want your child to grow into a responsible adult, chores is a great way to do it! Giving them a task that is their own or an area of the house that they are in charge of keeping clean is a great way to help them be responsible later in life.

 

Teaches Valuable Life Skills

When kids start doing chores, they learn the important skills associated with running a home. If you start when they are young, it is more likely that it will become habit. This is something that is not taught in most schools, so it is even more essential that parents teach it at home. 

 

Boosts Self Esteem

Kids gain confidence and self esteem when they are given chores that they are able to complete on their own. Praising them for their efforts will give them an even bigger boost. Making sure the chores are age appropriate is key. Giving them something beyond their ability is setting them up for failure.  

 

Independence

In a study conducted by Harvard over 75 years, kids who were given chores became more independent adults.

 

Learn Respect

A child cannot fully understand the work that goes into a particular chore until they have done it themselves. They will gain a new respect for your time and effort once they start doing it. Slowly but surely they will come to realize all the work that you put in.

 

Teaches Consequences

Have you ever finished folding laundry, just to have your kids knock your neat piles all over the floor? Or as soon as you finish cleaning the floors, in walk the kids with their muddy shoes to ruin all of your hard work? If you give the kids one of the chores they frequently destroy, they will soon learn that their actions can have consequences.

 

Opportunity To Learn About Money

I recently started implementing a commission system in my home for certain chores.  I create a chore chart for each child with tasks they can earn money for completing. This gives my kids the opportunity to earn a little pocket money each week. Not only does this teach them about the value of money, it will also provide the opportunity for them to start learning how to handle money.

 

Keeps Them Busy

Now, I am certainly not saying that we should fill all of your kids free time with chores. But this is a great way to give them something to do and keep them active and busy. This is an especially great way to keep your kids active when you are stuck indoors

 

Lightens The Load

Once kids start taking on some of the household tasks, it lightens up the load for the parents. Take advantage of your kids natural willingness to help and get them started early. This will give you more free time to spend with them doing fun things together as a family.

So as you can see, there is a lot to be said for giving kids chores around the home. I do agree that kids are not born to be our slaves, but we also don’t want our children to grow into entitled adults who feel like everything in life should be handed to them. 

 

I would love to know what your thoughts are on chores. Which side of the debate are you on? At what age do you start to get your kids involved around the home?

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22 Comments

  1. I age-graded the chores around my house also.
    However, my children learned neither empathy nor responsibility. They complained constantly. It was a fight every day to get them to join the family and do their part. I was going to college while they were growing up, and they wanted me to A) marry the first man I met, even if he was a bum in a bar; or B) drop out of school and clean up after them. I should tell you that I was an Honors student, scheduled to graduate summa cum laude with a pre-med major. None of that mattered to them.
    I hoped that doing chores would have all the results you listed, but the only one I got was when they grew up and thanked me for teaching them anyway, even if they did fight me tooth and toenail every inch of the way.

    1. Oh yes! Sometimes getting kids to pitch in can be a battle and there are definitely moments that my kids will fight me on this. But I am always thinking long term in my parenting strategies. And I am glad to hear that even though they were not happy in the moment, in the long run they were appreciative. I would consider that a win for sure!

  2. I agree with you. Children do need to learn at a young age respect and responsibilities, also all the other points you have written about. I hope more parents teach their children all these points.

    D, xo

  3. So much wisdom here. I was just having a conversation last week with an empty nester who has a flock of very accomplished young adults, but she regrets not having involved them more in the nitty gritty work of life. Her boys did not mow the lawn or empty the trash, and so, therefore, they have no idea what it takes to keep a house in order now that they are adults.

    1. Don’t think of it as “making your children be your slaves”. Think of it as teaching your children the necessary life skills that they need to be a self-sufficient adult. Moreover, teaching your children these skills is what being a parent is all about. It’s your job to send them out into adulthood with all the tools they need to be able to be successful, and that includes cooking and washing the dishes afterwards.

  4. I plan to get my daughter to help with some of the chores too. At uni I was put into halls with people who clearly had no idea what cleaning was (my child will not be this person!). I’ve also had to teach my husband how to do some things around the house that I thought everyone knew. But if you weren’t asked to do it at home when else would you learn? #dreamteam

  5. I have a three-year-old and a four-year-old, and they both help with the jobs. Just little things like drying up or making their beds or picking up the cushions in the livingroom, but I’m determined to teach them how to look after the house and keep it in order, so when they grow up and have a home of their own to care for, they know how to manage their time. That was something I had to learn as I went. The first few years of marriage were … messy. :/

  6. I agree with you. Children must realize that being a part of the family means shared responsibility. Even from a young age, children should understand responsibility, the importance of teamwork, and independence.

  7. I agree with everything except the pocket money. They need to help to contribute to family life, not for money. That’s my opinion of course 🙂
    Our oldest is about to turn 5 and we’re also starting a “chores strategy”.
    Thanks for sharing your experience!

    1. I completely agree with you, Paola. There are chores that my kids are expected to do that they do not earn money for. We give them the opportunity to do extra chores that are above and beyond what is required that they can earn money for.

  8. Yes, yes, and yes! I think it’s so important to get kids involved in the day-to-day running of the house. After all, they will have a house of their own to run one day and they’re going to need to know how it’s done. I’d also add that it can be a great way to spend one-on-one time together – my 6yo loves helping me cook our evening meal and we chat about all kinds of things while we’re preparing it together #brillblogposts

  9. I agree with you! I think having kids do chores is a great learning tool, and it will make them better adults! Thank you for sharing the benefits of children doing chores!

  10. These are great reasons for making kids help with chores. So many parents skip this step, and they pay a price for it down the road. Thanks for sharing on Sunday’s Best.

  11. I completely agree with this. My kids, 3 and 6 both put their own laundry away, help clean up toys and then we all do a 10-minute power clean so that when the ten minutes is up we have time to spend with each other! I also have a few extra tasks that my oldest will do in order to earn a special privilege, like cleaning the toilet. Hehe. My house is typically clean enough that I am not phased if someone decides to pop in on us. 😉

  12. I agree that kids should definitely help out with the chores, there’s so many benefits to it. Please remember to add your #fortheloveofBLOG badge next week as we are getting a bit tougher on our linky rules this year. Thanks for sharing with #fortheloveofBLOG

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